Moving

[miss_yt]

Some of you may recall that I said I had some trouble with one of my roommates a few years back. It's gotten slightly better, but I'm planning to move out anyway.

Our property manager wants us to make arrangements for subletting the place, if we're going to do that, and asked about us signing a lease for this year. When we started talking about it, the roommate in question said she got the impression I was planning to move out. I said I didn't know where she'd gotten this from. She and the other roommate said, rather ridiculously, that they'd gotten it from my cat, who doesn't get along with the other cats. The first roommate said she'd also told her friend she could move in here - without discussing it with me first. I said I didn't appreciate that but I didn't Have Words With Her like I probably should have.

Anyway. When my brother comes to help me move out most of my stuff, he will probably be helping me disassemble my furniture as well. There are a number of options for moving and storing it. I can have it go somewhere else and then move it to whatever new place I choose to live in. I contacted the property manager and asked if there were any other living situations under his purview opening up, and that I would prefer one where I could live by myself (no more of this roommate crap). I don't know if I could get one, although I would be content with less passive-aggressive roomies.

This is going to be a big hassle for me, but on the other hand, it will be a great relief to get out of here.

Comments

[desdenova.livejournal.com]

Oh, wow, those people are assholes!!!! Make sure you get your security deposit back from them before you leave! (Or better yet, just tell them it's you last month's rent.)

Anyways, good luck with the moving; I hope wherever you end up is better.

[miss-yt.livejournal.com]

I signed up with the landlord, not them, so I will be able to get my security deposit back. I've e-mailed the property manager and some people on Craigslist about one-bedroom apartments. I realized hey, I could afford them, and there's nothing to keep me from moving into one.

It will upset my mother, who wants me to live with roommates because she thinks I need to socialize. But I've learned the hard way that roommates are only good for paying part of the rent, if that. Usually they are not good for companionship. Having a space I can totally call my own will probably be good for my peace of mind.

[desdenova.livejournal.com]

Your mom must be an extrovert. IMO, living with annoying strangers is no way to socialize, and makes me want to withdraw even more, since I can't even get some peace and personal space in my own home. I think I actually started to get out and socialize *more* when I started living alone, because it gave me an opportunity to recharge.

[miss-yt.livejournal.com]

My psych professor would agree with you (and it's part of the reason I'm convinced I need to move to my own place). We recently read a psychiatrist's suggestions for better design of mental hospitals in which he noted that mental patients who have their own private rooms have a greater sense of security because they've got somewhere safe to go back to when they're overwhelmed. That way they don't withdraw internally, and feel more in control of their own socialization.

I might actually seek more human contact if I were not forced by necessity to live with strangers and people who turned out to be jerks, so I'm totally in agreement with your theory.